Listening to Devendra, thinking about things.

"It's not a date if you don't make-out." -as texted by yours truly the other day.

Question: why does it take longer to decide that you want to be friends with someone than it does to decide you want to make-out with them on the regular?

I'd say it's a pretty reasonable thing that after meeting a fella that you think looks like he could chop down a good tree or has revealed to you that he reads Neil Gaiman, to decide that you should probably make-out with him. This decision happens quickly and naturally, and in another short period of time post-make-out, you'll probably be in a good place to judge if you would like to do such things again.  

It would be unreasonable however, to be introduced to a friend of a friend while out on the town, and decide within mere minutes that this new girl should come over to your house and bake cookies and play monopoly and have a goofy photoshoot and trade outfits. Even if that decision was made, it would be drunken and ill-advised, and you'd never actually follow through because oh god, how awkward! What would you talk about?! How would you kill the time?

I guess that's why making new sexy-time-friends is easier. 

You just fill the awkwardness with tongue parties. 

You can't do that with your real friends. 

On the flip side, you'd swap "electrolytes, mucus, antibacterial compounds and various enzymes" with a lumberjack, but probably wouldn't ask him to help you move the next day.

So too, if you are just hanging out with some new dude or lady or what have you, that you just met. And you don't make-out, then congratulations! You were just hanging with your new bud. If it wasn't awkward, hold onto that sucker tight.